If you are thinking about dating Filipina girls for marriage, you are probably wondering if it’s a good idea. After all, despite the good press about Filipino women being good wives and even better mothers, there are men who have been burned by Filipinas and are warning other men about them every chance they get.
But for us who know and sympathize with both sides, i.e., Filipino women who have been married to foreigners for a long time (I’ve been married four years to a Korean and I have friends who are married to men from Canada, Iceland, Germany, and the UK), the assumption that ALL Filipina girls for marriage are gold diggers and scammers is unfair.
However, we also realize that there are those among us who have no moral qualms about dating foreign men for a living (once over coffee, I heard a story about a lesbian Filipina who was able to scam different foreign men the equivalent of over $20,000).
So we’d like to tell you that if you want to date Filipina girls for marriage, you should take your time in doing so. Do not think for a moment that you can date a Filipina girl for a few months and then get married to her. It’s risky enough as it is and if you are from the United States, there’s a great chance the US government will reject your Filipina’s wife’s visa application.
If you want to date Filipina girls for marriage, here are some tips we’d like for you to keep in mind:
1. Get to know her family
Filipinos are probably the most family-oriented women on earth and the term “family” means grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins, aside from parents and siblings. In most cases, a Filipina woman’s character and her goals in life are closely tied to her family.
If she’s got a domineering mother, she most likely has a strong personality. On a more practical note, however, if she comes from a very poor family, she’s most likely just looking for someone who will help her family, or will help her so she can help her family.
2. Really get to know her (Don’t rush)
Since you are looking for Filipina girls for marriage, we trust that you are looking forward to getting married for life and not just a few years. One of the biggest reasons why men get burned is that they rushed to be in a relationship with a Filipina.
You can protect your heart by simply taking the time to get to know her and to give her a few tests. Here’s one that you can try: Ask her what she wants to receive as a gift. If she asks for something expensive (or else gives you a shopping list) and she does not retract by telling you that she was only joking, you have someone who is cunning, more or less.
Filipinos have this character trait called mahiya-in (shy) and normally don’t ask for things – especially the expensive ones – from their lovers. If they are asked, the typical reply would be “it’s up to you.”
3.Be the man who lifts her up
If you’ve been around Filipinos long enough, you’ve probably noticed that many of us have a serious inferiority complex. Different people deal with it in different ways, but the most common reaction is not to have any seriously high goal in life.
If you can be the man who will make her feel more confident about herself and what she can do, to be the man who teaches her a lot of things, then there’s a great chance that you can be the best thing that ever happened to her. I’ve seen Filipina friends post on their Facebook wall praising their foreigner husbands for believing in them, teaching them a lot of things and, most of all, for loving them.
If you’re wondering where you can find Filipina girls for marriage, we suggest that you try Cherry Blossoms (http://blossomsdating.com). The site currently has over 50,000 active Filipino women members.