If you’re a man who’s looking for a wife, you’ve probably heard someone tell you to look for a Filipino wife. And it’s highly likely that despite your desire to get married, you’ve asked yourself why you should go for a Filipino wife.
After all, it doesn’t make sense to get married to someone half a world away, when there are so many beautiful women in every city in the United States across thousands of colleges.
But for many men who are working hard to find a Filipino wife, the reasons for marrying a Filipino woman go beyond skin deep. According to one American who posted an opinion piece on Craigslist personals ad (M4W), men want to marry Filipino woman because women from America tend to put career over family first, and while they are beautiful, are “bitchy and materialistic.”
This is unlike Filipino women who, having grown up in a family-oriented culture, tend to subordinate themselves for the sake of having an intact family. So, for some men who want a loving, life-long, family-centered relationship, marrying someone from the West is simply not an option.
Here’s the complete text of that op-piece (verbatim):
WHAT ARE THE SINCERE AMERICAN GUYS REALLY LOOKING FOR?
Wow…What a title, right? I know what the ladies are thinking…”What sincere guys, there aren’t any out there”. Well, for all the sincere ladies reading this, the truth is that there are plenty of sincere American guys searching online (just Not on Craigslist), and they are genuinely interested in meeting a sincere woman from the Philippines. Unfortunately, there are far more scammers and weirdos out there, and so you hear more about the bad experiences than about the good ones. Also, those that are lucky enough to find their special someone online tend not to shout about their good fortune, while the ones that do get hurt are more inclined to share their stories. The point here is that people are people, and there are good and bad people all over. Anyone using the Internet needs to be mindful of this very harsh reality.
OK…But, why are decent American men looking in the Philippines to find a woman to love?
Well, first, contrary to popular belief, NOT all Caucasian American males looking online are wealthy, have limited left-brain activity, or are sexual deviants looking to find glorified slaves. This just couldn’t be any further from the truth.
Of the truly sincere decent men looking to meet a woman from the Philippines, most are hard working, respectful, educated, and very much desire a loving, family-centered lifestyle. Are they interested in a woman’s physical beauty? Of course they are…I mean, let’s be truthful, that’s just part of nature. Physical attractiveness is part of evolutionary programming…It’s a fundamental part of nature. However, it certainly is NOT the whole story. If it was ONLY about physical beauty, they wouldn’t have to search a half-a-world away. There are plenty of physically beautiful women in every city of America, and on all the thousands of college campuses across the U.S.
So, if the U.S. has so many beautiful women, why are American men looking in the Philippines?
Frankly, many Western women, having grown up in a somewhat dysfunctional culture, tend to be very materialistic. Beauty, bitchy, and materialistic are NOT qualities that promote loving, life-long, family-centered relationships. Many Western women tend not to be concerned with maintaining their feminine qualities. Many do not have as a priority a desire to maintain a close, warm, nurturing home for their family to grow and enjoy life. They (Western women) are less likely to give priority to family or to their spouse over their career. The idea that the woman is the centerpiece of the family unit, caring for and nurturing the whole family is something that is, sadly, disappearing from American culture. Consequently, for many of the sincere American guys desiring these qualities in a woman, Western women are just NOT an option.
Ironically, however, for some men that eventually do find their Filipina beauty, their dreams are short-lived. Western culture can be quite infectious. Dysfunction has a tendency to breed dysfunction. Sadly, those very same Filipina qualities that bring American men to the Philippines looking for the love of their life, can tragically change and become almost non-existent after living for a while in Western society. Beware, the American celebrity culture bug bites, and when it does it can tempt even the purest of souls.
Some will advise that if an American man truly desires to marry a Filipina, then he should do so but be willing to live in the Philippines. Others will say that if one marries a true Filipina, it doesn’t matter what culture you immerse her in, she will forever be a Filipina. And so, I imagine, somewhere in between lies the reality. Best wishes to all who are truly looking for love. And may all others NOT find their way into any sincere heart.